As a newly-engaged lady you might be ready to start planning right away, especially if you’ve been dreaming about this day for as long as you can remember. But hold up. Before you get up to your eyelashes in venues, dresses, and cake flavors, take a moment to consider what this time between engagement and marriage means to you. This is a wonderful moment in your life and it should be cherished just as much as your wedding day. Plus, not rushing into the planning phase and trying to get things done as soon as possible will take out a lot of undue stress and possible mistakes. So let’s talk about how you can enjoy your engagement to its fullest. Here are a few tips:
1. Start Slow
Don’t feel like you have to start securing dates and making “Will you be my bridesmaid?” cards right after he slips the ring on your finger. Enjoy what just happened and ease into wedding planning. You don’t want to feel overwhelmed from the get-go. Once you’re ready to start planning, sit down with your fiance over morning coffee and start brainstorming or creating a plan of action. Talk about what you both want. Wedding planning is a team effort, after all.
2. Write it Down
Start an engagement notebook to document this special time in your life. Write about becoming a bride, jot down wedding ideas, paste pictures and mementos onto the pages. Treat it like a scrapbook if you’d like. Trust me, you’ll love looking through it many years after you’ve been married.
3. Enjoy the Anticipation
One of the greatest things about an engagement period is the anticipation it creates. You’re excited, your fiance is excited, family and friends are excited. Having something to look forward to can give you a major happiness boost, so don’t rush it! Let that anticipation for the big day fuel your dreams and give you butterflies in your stomach. The wedding day will be over in the blink of an eye, so don’t race to get there. Take a leisurely walk through your engagement and enjoy the scenery.
4. Count Your Blessings
It’s easy to get wrapped up in wedding planning and it can sometimes cause stress and frustration. During those moments, remember why you’re getting married and make a list of all the things you’re grateful for. Doing so will bring to light the positive moments and the things you’re enjoying about your engagement/wedding planning. Don’t let vendor frustrations and petty arguments get to you. Instead, focus on the blessings and you’ll be much happier for it.
5. Spend Time Together (without wedding talk)
Most of your engagement will be centered around wedding planning, so it’s important to take moments that involve no such thing. Schedule a day each week where you and your fiance get together and do something that doesn’t require you to talk budget, flowers, or seating plans. Even if it’s just a night at home with pizza delivery and a movie. Give yourselves a break from future bride and groom-dom and just enjoy being a couple.